Love.

Thursday, 12 June 2014 Jakarta, Indonesia

It's a very weird thing, isn't it? Love.

They say you'll know love when you feel it.

Lawangwangi Cafe & Art Space, Bandung, 2014

I met this guy 4 years ago. I was still with someone else, just graduated high school, and just got accepted to my dream university (which turned out to be not so dreamy in the end, I'll talk more about it in another post), on the other hand he was single, it was several months after he got his bachelor degree, and he was building a company with his close friend outside the city.


He was always so clear of his intentions, he told me about his feelings on our second meeting (which was in August 2010). "I'm the best for you", he was always so confident and sure like that. I always knew he wanted to build a future together, which was weird, because "Me? Why would anyone want me that much?" He was so persistent and he was never romantic. He showed me his feelings through making sure I felt secure, and making sure I knew he took me as his responsibility. Quality time was definitely his love language. I never spent that much time that way with anyone else before, and it didn't take me long to realise I liked being around him (actually, it was like, 4-5 months?). But it wasn't until 8 months later -- though we both don't know exactly when -- that I started to commit to our relationship, that we started being a "couple". And now, almost 4 years later, we're planning for our wedding next year.

He's a blessing.
No one ever have and will see me the way he does. I was always "ideal" in his eyes. He does everything he can to make me happy, although not through singing me love songs or whispering "I love you" to my ears or bring me roses or with surprise kisses on the forehead, he does things that matter much more-- working hard everyday to make our dreams come true, respecting me not only as his significant other--but also as a woman, being loyal, listening to EVERYTHING I say, and respecting my choices and beliefs. He always chooses to see the better side of me, which unconsciously makes me become the better version of myself.

I love our relationship, I love what we have. At this point I don't think anything can break this. I'm not saying we have the best relationship, but this relationship is exactly what we both need, it's what right for us. You don't meet someone who has the same life goal as yours everyday, I happen to have met one four years ago and decided that I'll spend the rest of my life with this person. I chose to see past his imperfections, I chose to not look for a better person, I decided that he's the best partner to spend my life with, I decided that he's my future.


Important note:
I can't express how I'm so grateful that I can marry the man I choose, legally be his wife, not having to be judged by other people for it, and not having to be scared & worried everyday just to be with someone I love. Love is universal, everyone has the right to love and be loved, also to be WITH someone they love. My happiness will never be complete as long as there are people who can't get married just because other people decided that they shouldn't. It doesn't make sense. Why would you be the people who stand in the way of other people's happiness? Why do you think you can be the judge of who other people should be with? Why does the law say a man can only marry a woman and vice versa? The world would be a much better place if we can all truly understand the concept of love and how beautiful it is, so we know that we should never be the bad guys who take the beauty out of it and turn it into a scary thing for other human beings.

2 comments

  1. This is so sweet :)
    You area def a lucky girl really. So happy seeing both of you together :)

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  2. Kak Gita! Makasih banyak kak. :)

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