Small Progress is Still Progress & Being Seen As Equal

Friday, 11 July 2014

Almost 4 years ago, I met the first guy who asked me "What's your biggest dream?", he changed my life and we've been building dreams together ever since.

I've never really given it much thought before he asked me, but after I thought of it, I realised I want so many things, things that sound naive for me to want, things that are nearly impossible to achieve. 

A very old instax picture of us
I started telling him "I want to own a hotel that's as luxurious as the Waldorf Astoria, I want to volunteer at Kevin Richardson's The Kingdom, I want to travel the world, I want to do a cancer-related research" and other things like "I want to be able to go to Disney parks anytime I want, I want to drink Serendipity's Frrrozen Hot Chocolate" yeah, silly things like that.



Years passed and some dreams change, although some don't.
One thing I want most right now is an opportunity to move out of the country. I don't want to live the rest of my life living in one place. Fortunately, it's one of the things he wants most too. One of the reasons why we decided to get married so soon ("what you're 21? That's SO YOUNG") is because we have a lot of dreams together, we want to make them come true as soon as possible (may not be able to start base jumping later when we're 50!). So both of us have been looking through all possible options. There were times when I was hopeless because some things just can never work out (because of a silly decision I made when I was 16). Last year, we may have found a way for us to get out of here. Please bottom-line that it's still a long way until we can actually say "hey, we're finally moving out of the country, for real". Still, we made progress.

 
I inserted that bit of his email because it's funny and cute how he talks to me. Haha.
I censored a part of the sentence because I don't want to jinx it.

I'm so happy that we're doing something that involves our future, I'm happy that we're stepping forward. I'm happy that we don't just sit around and actually doing something to make our dreams a reality. This is a small progress, but it's still progress. I'm thankful for it.

To all of you who's reading this, please wish us luck, we need all the luck in the world! Out of everything I want in the world, I need this one to be a reality... for the sake of my sanity

On a completely different note, I love how he sees me as an equal whose opinions worth considering. He makes me feel like I'm capable, like I'm not stupid. I'm a very competitive person and he's the kind of guy who says "wow" and lets me "win". He listens to my advices and appreciates my "I'm not saying I'm smart, but I know I'm not stupid" attitude (LOL). Trust me, I see relationships where the guy belittles the girl and makes her feel like she's not appreciated all the time. In fact, I was in one. I'm thankful I have better taste in men now. Haha! I pay attention to details and judging from how he writes me in his email I know that I'm loved the right way.


I'm very excited for what's to come. I hope we don't stray too far from our original plan.

This is such a ramble-y post, sorry! x

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